A internet friend has recently announced that he had Testicular cancer & when i was thinking of something to say on the matter i was bewildered as to why the others were saying doom & gloom negative crap like;
"Oh im so sorry"
"God, your so young"
"This must be terrible for you"
now in my humble opinion, this wasn't what the boy wanted to hear at all, he knew all that, so he sure as hell didn't need reminded of it, now i must be stupid or something (Quite clearly *dramatic eye roll*) but wouldn't it be better to attempt to make light of the situation? take the piss outta the situation? to make him laugh or even get angry at me? cos either way he wouldn't be sad anymore & brung down by inconsequential apologies & reminders, because as it often shows, that folk who are negative about the situation (Thats any situation, not just cancer) tend to not recuperate so well.
Hell back in the days of old if some womans husband buggered off to war she would worry herself sick, literally!
So i did my usual "Insensitiveness" & guess what? the boy felt better!
If i ever feel down... i sure as hell don't want to be bothered by tiresome apologies & reminders.
Stupidity, it really is that this is the way we are taught.
(I may let you know if his op goes well... sounds like they caught it early)
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